This is going to be an extremely controversial issue and will raise eyebrows among the community, but this is how I saved myself from avoidable heartbreak and pain in my relationships, too many people look into a person’s good side without addressing their bad side. The reality of life is there is a lot of broken people out there in the dating scene: traumatized, severely mentally ill, and bad backgrounds/broken homes.

You must USE your JUDGEMENT, judge them accordingly, once the red flags are out there, you really have to bail. People who tell you not to judge others, while you’re dating will not suffer the consequences of being with a cheating partner or bad communicator.

Finding a person raised from a good home with a healthy self-esteem is going to be miles better than a person raised from a broken/dysfunctional home with no parental figure to support their upbringing. People who claim to mature at an early age are actually the worst people, I’ve dated.