Let’s be honest here, some people are just too fucked-up by their past and by severe trauma to ever be fit for healthy and monogamous relationships, which a lot of people still strive for nowadays. It is not because of the age of sexualization, but in view of the fact that generational trauma is real.

Many people are just incapable of having an understanding of a healthy relationship dynamic, most of them will never actually learn about it. Their best sources of relationships are through misguided quotes on the internet, popular media that have no proper fundamentals of what a proper relationship is like, or their peers that continue to perpetuate their own false beliefs and narratives of an ideal relationship.

To simply put it, maturing is knowing when a dating prospect is for the short term or the long term. Yes, you really have to scrutinize and be a little bit judgmental when it comes to dating, because the price you pay for being ignorant and having a savior complex is going to waste your most precious commodity, your time.