I had a conversation a couple months ago with someone I met here on reddit. Chat chat chat, she sends a photo which is just ok to me and we move to a different platform where video calls are possible.

NOTE: my last AP sent two photos that were equally "just ok." In fact, the next couple she sent were just ok also, but she and I had this crazy connection that overrode any doubts I had about the physical attraction. Turns out that I found myself insanely attracted to her. When we met, it was also amazing.

So back to [EDIT: “the pAP in question”]. We have a first video call. It's just ok. I like her as a person -- a lot -- but the vibe is slightly off. I rationalize it because she is a bit distracted, and I have to end abruptly because SO calls me. I tell her it was great to chat, but I am only half candid, because the call wasn't that great. But I do like her; there's an ease between us.

We chat chat chat -- fine enough -- and then have another video call next day. It still feels a bit "off." She's long distance, so trying to meet to check chemistry seems unreasonable if the feels at this point after lots of texts and audios/videos/2 video chats are not there.

I'm thinking I have to wish her well and move on.

I write to her at the start of the day after the most recent and just-ok video call that I think she's great, and I mention a lot of things we have in common, but that "I don't see us on a path toward romantic intimacy."

She rips me a new one, and it appears she wipes everything from the conversation thread and might have blocked me. I try writing back to underscore that it has nothing to do with her in principle, that I really do like her as a person, that I know video calls can be tricky and not representative of a connection, but I just wasn't feeling it.

Apparently she had blocked me already or closed her account etc. Didn't hear back.

Anything I could have handled differently from what I've described? If I'm an unwitting dick toward someone, I want to know so I can avoid it next time. What do you yourself do if you have a video call -- or see a photo -- after chatting and feel that the vibe or spark is just not there?