I’ve been with my AP for four years. In that time she divorced her husband, dated many guys, and now has found a guy she wants to settle down with.

I’ve been with her through it all. She insists, even as she and her guy are getting closer, that she wants me in her life. But the sex has diminished to very little, and she really doesn’t have time for me anymore. We’ve grown to where sex isn’t the main thing anymore but hell it’s why I went looking for an affair partner. But she’s in the honeymoon stage with her guy so really she doesn’t need me.

They’ll start living together in February. I can see the writing on the wall.

Should I just end it now and begin the grieving or just take what I get until she decides it’s over?