I’m pretty discreet in my affairs and have been doing this long enough to see some warning signs of when an AP is running off the rails a bit.

I’ve been seeing this woman that I met at the gym for over 18 months now - literally, we met at the gym a few weeks before the original lockdowns in a spin class. When our gym closed, we would use video chat and cycle together every other day on our exercise bikes at home. It was all very above board, she was attractive, but I didn’t feel any chemistry.

One day when everything started to open back up in July/August of 2020, she sent me a picture of herself in a very revealing outfit and said that our riding has been paying off.

I couldn’t resist saying that that I enjoyed being her riding partner and I tossed in a Devil emoji.

From there, things got a bit spicier and eventually she ended up sending me a picture of herself getting out of the shower after one of our rides.

A week later we were having pretty great sex in a hotel room.

Her marriage was good according to her. She had a great friendship with her husband, they were excellent co-parents, their sex life was above average, but her husband was in mediocre shape with a bit of a “dad bod” and she wanted to see what it was like to be with someone in better physical shape, etc…

She was fastidious about safe sex. I mean, incredibly focused on making sure the condom stayed on all the time, sometimes if we’d change positions she’d change the condom “just in case”, and when I would finish she would remind me to make sure it didn’t slip off when I withdrew.

I had a vasectomy a few years back and showed her my STI panels but I was comfortable with her desire for safe sex, whatever she needed to be comfortable was perfectly fine.

We’d meet up, time permitting, every week or so over the last 18 months and about three weeks ago when we met she wasn’t interested in using condoms. I paused and asked her if she was sure. She said that the whole condom thing was over the top and she’d been a bit too much with it.

Anyway, we went with it and the sex was completely off the hook. I mean, she was just in another zone altogether. Spectacular sex.

The next day, she texted me saying how amazing it was and I agree it was great.

A few days later, she texted me saying that she felt that going bareback was a mistake and she felt horrible.

I replied with, “No problem, next time I’ll be more insistent so that you’re comfortable. It’s fine.”

It just escalated from there. She started saying how she developed feelings the moment we “crossed that line” and how she hadn’t stopped thinking about it and wanted more.

On and on… there were some other things she said and did over the last few weeks that were a bit weird that I don’t feel the need to write about.

I’ve been kind of ducking her the last two weeks, cancelling our regular meetups by making excuses.

Finally, yesterday after she sent me a strange photo, I said to her, “Hey, I think we should have a wee break for a bit so you can get your feelings under control. This is meant to be just fun, but I think you’ve lost sight of that.”

I didn’t hear from her for an hour or so, she left me on read, and then I got a deluge of threats about telling her husband, begging me to give her another chance, telling me how much she needed to see me one last time, etc…

I’m not in any danger of her blowing my cover at home, my OpSec is airtight, but I might have to change gyms which would be a shame because I really like this one.

I didn’t see her developing feelings at all, so that was a blindside for me. Disappointing really because the sex was tremendous.