I'm new to having a AP after being in my marriage for 8 years but no sex for the last 4 years. My husband is just not interested at all and after 4 years of I'll ask the Dr or I'll make a effort he doesn't make I'm just over it. My AP has been a good friend for like 12 years and recently we have gotten super close, hung out and had sex. Sex we want to keep going and with a relationship also. How do I split time to see him without a excuse every month of going to see my sister and friend. What have y'all done to not get caught. To be fair. I'm pretty sure this time next year I'll be leaving my husband but waiting on some things to play out so that can happen. AP knows all about husband and is fine texting and seeing each other when we can. But I feel kinda bad I can't see him whenever or have him over like a real relationship. So I guess any advice on it would be awesome. Thanks

editing to add AP lives about a hour from me so it's hard to just visit for a couple hours. So it has to be big excuses kinda.