My AP (F28) and I (M48) have been seeing each other for over 3 years. When we began, she was married. About 1.5 years into it, she divorced her husband. She very half-heartedly asked if she and I might have a possibility, but no, we would not make it as a real couple for a few reasons, one being our large age-gap. So she started dating. She wants to find her ‘person’. I support her in that. We’re very close, and I want her to have a happy life even if it means I’ve got to go at some point. She is gorgeous and has no trouble finding guys who want to ‘date’ her. And those relationships last about a month at most. To a degree, I know she dates for new sex. And yes, our sexual encounters have diminished somewhat since her divorce.

My question to the single APs: Why do you have a MM as a sexual partner when the world is full of exciting new sex?