M49, married 20 years. My wife and I have had a rocky sex life the past 6 years. Her desire dwindled to almost nothing. Lots of couple’s therapy, lots of working on it. Nothing helped until she started a whole new career about 4 months ago - her entire outlook has changed and we’ve been having sex about once a week for a few months.

But the damage had been done. I want so much more out of my sex life. I started visiting strip clubs, chatting online with women… all in secret.

The a few weeks ago I met Annie. We’ve gone on a couple dates and made out like teenagers. Today she wants to seal the deal and fuck for the first time. It would be my first time fucking someone new in over 20 years.

I’m infatuated with this woman. And nervous about opening Pandora’s box at the same time. Neither of us want to leave our SO’s. But moving from a couple dates to full on affair seems like a very big deal and I’m scared.

Thoughts? Advice?

EDIT: It was the day. I didn’t know going in if it would be. In fact we agreed it wouldn’t. But then we did it anyway. And it was glorious. And I feel great about it.