Adultery for most intents and purposes is seen by most as horribly negative, someone exploring outside of a marriage for innumerable reasons. But we never talk about the positive impact it can have on someone.

I've always had horrible self esteem, my wife was the first and only woman I had slept with, I felt for the longest time that I had settled because I could never find anyone else. Enter Kik just over a year ago. If you have an Android you have access to a random chat function, one Saturday afternoon I was bored so I decided to play around with it. The 3rd time I hit the big blue button, I was matched up with a woman with whom I fell deeply in love with. That chance encounter led me to Kik groups, and eventually to adultery based Discord groups. I've found women who are attracted to me, moreover actually want to be in a relationship with me, beautiful women with whom I'd previously never thought I'd have a chance of even talking to.

I've noticed lately that because of my my self confidence is so much better, I walk with my head up high, my shoulders pulled back. I know not every woman will find me attractive, and I'm definitely not expecting women to just fall over trying to get at me, but my self image has improved so much that I actually enjoy going out now, I like knowing that there are women out there that do find me attractive.

It's also changed how I act at home, I cherish my wife now, I'd say my online and IRL affairs have made me appreciate her more now than I ever have, I treat her differently, with more love and respect than I had in the past. It hasn't solved the dead bedroom that's plagued us since our 3rd child, but I see her with more love than I ever have.

So say what you will about adultery, I know it doesn't always come out with sunshine and roses, but at times, for some individuals, it can the the important key to saving a marriage.