I just found this place, and I'm happy to be able to talk about what's going on in my life.

I'm an American guy living in Japan, married to a Japanese woman. You've all probably heard the stories about how Japan always ranks last in sexual frequency and satisfaction. Well, from what I can tell you, it's true. We have kids, and my wife lost any and all interest in sex. She'll do it for my sake but I can tell she is clearly phoning it in. The relationship has gotten worse too, it's like she only wants to be a mom and nothing else.

I'd leave but she's completely dependent on me, and she'd get complete custody of the kids. It's kind of a complicated situation. So I cheat. We have a DADT situation, I'm pretty sure she knows, but as long as I keep it under wraps she won't say anything about it.

I meet other women for sex and companionship, some are married and in a similar position, some are single and just looking for someone to keep them company. I can't really talk about this with anyone I know, so it's nice to find this community that isn't judgmental about this sort of thing.

Anyway, thanks for letting me get that off my chest!