Just venting here as a longer time lurker, first time posted. I (M41) was prepared to dip my toes into this water. I’m in a long-term DB with my wife (F31) and crave connection, touch and intimacy. SO much!

I got here somewhat by accident. Asking questions of myself and what’s next … how to get to the ever-moving goal posts to achieve intimacy again. I met a friend from Twitter irl this summer with no plans for anything other than a friendship and to say hi. She asked, I joined. She ended up kissing me and I leaned into this moment kissing her back. She was moaning from the kissing and touched me. It was so hot! I felt so alive and like something had woken up in my spirit. She was nervous about meeting ever again because of her husband, so eventually I posted an ad here.

Since then, I met one PAP irl. We had drinks, talked, held hands and made out. It was a great connection. We work across the street from one another so there is a convenience to it all. We talked about meeting again and seemed to be mutual interest and mutual attraction, but two days later she ghosted me. :/

I met another woman on here that was moving to my area. We had plans to meet and I think we were both really excited. But her moving plans changed, she’s no longer coming soon and not sure if I’m ghosted or not but it’s been over a week.

I get, it kind of is what it is. I’m now questioning if these misses suggest giving up on the idea of finding an AP … I crave connection and touch so bad but maybe it’s easier this way. I’m not an ogre and I think that I’m caring, sweet and funny - also very goofy. Just a bit of a bummer I guess.