Just speaking out aloud!

I have been in the swinging lifestyle for some years now and my spouse has no inclination. Before I got into swinging, I have had one or two affairs with married women. I was able to keep that secret too. There was always that fear of being caught either by my spouse or the AP's spouse. I dreaded the latter more.

It was that fear that later pushed me into swinging. I preferred the idea of meeting women with their husbands knowledge and consent than behind their backs. But then, swinging has its own plethora of risks. One major one being safety in terms of getting diseases then the wide chances of encountering people with ulterior motives.

After several years swinging, I am beginning to weigh the risks in swinging against those in having an affair.

Beside the risks i mentioned above, sometimes, you really want to connect generally on a deeper level with the person you're having sex with, which is very rare case in swinging.

That makes me miss my days of having affairs.