Edit: please disregard my crude username. This is a genuine request for advice.

A little background: 39yo married man, have had two longer-term (1-2 years) APs in the past (not at the same time), and strongly desire to stop engaging in this lifestyle but feel addicted to it and am looking for advice on how to go about disengaging with it.

Long story short, my marriage is obviously not perfect, but my wife and I love (and like!) each other, have openly acknowledged our problems, and are both willing to put in the time and effort to work on them. The most recent development is that we've both finally admitted and agreed that we need to seek couples counseling to repair what's broken in our relationship, but we both agree it's repairable and desperately want to fix it.

Where I'm struggling is that I have had wandering eyes for so long that I don't know how to stop myself. The search, the chase, the excitement of connecting with someone new, it all feels like a drug that I'm addicted to. My next step is going to be to delete this account soon, but what's to stop me from just making a new one and starting the cycle all over again? I don't feel like I can trust myself to just stop cold turkey and not, for lack of a better term, relapse. It would so easy to create a new reddit account (or telegram account, or...) and get right back to it.

So I'm here wondering if anyone else has been in a similar position of wanting to stop being adulterous but struggling with disengaging, but was ultimately able to successfully stop? If so, I would sincerely appreciate hearing about what approaches, strategies, etc. that you took that helped you stop and reintegrated into your marriage as an engaged and fully present partner. Any help or advice is very sincerely appreciated.