So I just wanna tell my story in regards to my AP and how it works in my situation or our situation I am a male I’ve been married for 30 years. My AP has been married for about the same amount of time and subsequently she is my boss. I have been working with her the past eight years, and at first it was very nerve-racking very intimidating but once we cross that line, it has become very normal to the point where it can be dangerous because you forget that your spouse is at home and there are people watching as you walk down the street driving the car go eat lunch or meet up at the hotel. For me, I don’t feel any regret. I don’t feel any guilt and I believe I attribute that to compartmentalizing my feelings so at work Monday through Friday I’m 100 dedicated to her but once I get home, I’m 100% dedicated to my wife and family. I know not all people think the same or feel the same but if you are thinking of doing something like this, I guess you have to make sure that you’re doing it for all the right reasons and be very open with your AP don’t lie about anything and when you get home, don’t treat your spouse differently because that’s the biggest error people make. I am Mexican and my AP is a beautiful redhead with pale skin very attractive and I’ve never had anything like it. Conversations have never come up regarding leaving each other‘s spouse. It is something that we thrive together with we enjoy each other‘s company. We enjoy every minute to the point that she has become 100% my sub. No that’s a different topic for a different thread. I hope some of this helps. I know a lot of people have conflicted feelings when it comes to things like this if you force it it’s not meant to be if it happens natural then it is.