At least for me, the task of just finding one AP has been difficult. I'm still a newbie in this sub and the decision to finally try an affair has been a long thought out process for me. What I am learning is that most ladies have multiple pAPs that they are talking with. The ratio of married men to married women is heavily skewed in favor for ladies to have the opportunity to chat with many suiters at once. I guess I'm just looking for advice from this community about how to handle this situation. I'm not exactly comfortable with seeing an AP if she is potentially sleeping with multiple men. I'm very scared of STD so casual sex has never been my thing. Am I being too paranoid about this?