I have always been picky about the partners that I date. Maybe I have high standards but I believe that I have a lot to offer when in a relationship. I'm overall happy in my marriage with only a DB issue which many here can relate. My SO comes from a very conservative family so I understand her POV but I digress.

From Reddit, I have met many wonderful people where our conversations could go in any direction. However, I have noticed there are diverging opinions about finding an AP who has had many affairs versus an AP who is looking for their first affair. I belong to the latter group and I hope to find an AP who is also new to affairs so we can share that experience together.

What if you found the perfect AP but it's their first rodeo? I don't think there is a perfect answer which is another reminder to how personal this journey is to each of us.