Hi all, I recently was fortunate enough to find this group and having read through your posts and conversation threads I was finally able to better understand what I've been feeling for a few years now. Like most of the people in this group I am married with the same common things keeping me in (shared bills, kids, housing) and a lot of the same common challenges (no sex for a few years now and not looking like that'll change, disinterested partner, tired of trying to revive interest) so finding that there are others in the same position was such a breath of fresh air.

For a long time now I've been incredibly frustrated with my situation. I've tried for years to get across that I need more than just endless talking about feelings or waiting for her to be ready. I made the decision awhile back that I'm done and ready to take this sort of step. I'm in my early 40s with a lot of life and energy left and I don't want to waste that. I want to fill the empty space with the excitement of meeting someone else, to reignite that spark of life and remember what it was like to touch someone and kiss and hold hands and not be filled with trepidation that it's Friday I'm going to be forced to spend 48 hours on a mental drain.

This isn't my first foray into all of this, I've done this once before years ago and it was an amazing rush, the kind I'd love to feel again. I'm very much looking forward to interacting with others in the same situation, learning about what does and does not work and hopefully being able to release some of what's built up inside of me.