I am married and have been making an effort to find an AP in the wild. I have had a few great fwbs in the past and met online, AM. But, was thinking I might find a better one in the wild?

I workout typically 7 days a week. And, one day I go to a Pilates class w reformers, my so called rest day. I think I have been in this class for 4 years now. And, naturally the instructor is hot and probably 10 yrs younger. She can be really tough especially to the men and the Karen’s. People like her because she is good even though she is rough.

Most of the time in last few years I am the only male in the class. Pilates is a women dominated activity. My instructor flirts (the other women must notice), makes jokes with me sometimes at my expense and touches me. We text a little outside of class but fairly focused on business at hand and sometimes off the topic. I tell her I miss my time with her when either of us skips. Which she says she likes, such as today’s response: “ I hope so!!!” When we run into each other in the gym she goes out of her way to engage when not training someone. All seemingly what one might expect from an instructor that I might have a bit of chemistry with…certainly all innocent.

I do have a history with instructors. In college my buddy and I took aerobics 3 even though we had never done aerobics. we wanted to meet the fit hot chicks, was our reasoning. Unfortunately I could only take it at 8am, and that wasn’t the time the hotties were there. Right? But, I did end up dating the instructor for a long time. 6’ blue eyed blond bombshell who was at least 10 yrs older than me and as fit as could be.

And, a few years back a hot yoga instructor made similar appeals but I never followed through because I was married. And, she probably didn’t know it. I don’t wear a ring. I think I was in the db by then but didn’t realized I was doomed. Total idiot!

The Pilates instructor has a boyfriend and she knows I am married. She knows of my wife who took a few classes with her but bailed. But, part of me wants to drop a little nib-lit. Nothing too direct (which might be my norm) that would be weird or no going back? But, something that could, depending on the response, lead to another nib-lit. You get the picture.

Or, just talk some sense into me and tell me to give up on the hot Pilates instructor because?