My wife went on a girls trip last weekend with some of her friends and the big reveal from that weekend was that one of the friends (married for years with a 2 year old) had decided she didn’t want to be a mom anymore, had fallen in love with another woman she had been seeing on the side and was divorcing her husband. And my wife (and apparently the other women as well) were super supportive of her with the general consensus being “good for her. She’s doing what’s best and what makes her happy”. I know the husband and while he does have his faults, I am quite certain he’s not happy with the whole thing and was likely blindsided (I haven’t brought it up because he hasn’t mentioned it and I’m not going to pry). I just nodded my head when my wife mentioned it and said I’m not getting into that. But I find it quite funny that all of them were basically on board with their friend having an affair and leaving her family for someone else, when I know for damn sure if I were to admit to having an affair these women would burn me at the stake and treat my wife as a blameless victim.

Moral of the story is, do what you want and what makes you happy. Everyone is hypocritical when it comes to this stuff. You’re going to be seen as an asshole by others regardless…cheat and be blamed for ruining a marriage, be cheated on and still be blamed for being the reason someone cheated. What’s important is your own happiness.