Wanted to get some perspective here.

I try to manage my emotions for an affair by reminding myself of these important points. (1) I'm not trying to fall in love with anyone while I'm in this lifestyle. (2) Most affairs have an expiration date in my experience. (3) My situation at home will always be a priority over any affair activity.

With all of this in mind, my question is should we care about the character of your AP. Looks matter to me but I'm having a hard time accepting that my current AP is just not a nice person.

My AP embodies all the physical attributes that I find attractive: thin, tall, stylish fashion, east asian. She messaged me from another subreddit where we both found the other physically attractive after the pic exchange. Things progressed quickly where we met for coffee and already had a make-out session. However it's when we continued talking that I found incompatibility from my POV. My AP absolutely despises her SO who I suspect is her sugar daddy. She told me that he probably cheats on her but she has no solid evidence. However, she stays in the marriage for kids and because SO supports her very expensive life. We are talking about 6-bedroom home, Gucci bags, and drives a Porsche kind of expensive life which is well beyond my income reach. Another example of her character is how she describes her kids as "annoying" and "ugly". Adjectives that I would never use to describe my children. I definitely would not fall in love with this AP but I'm having a hard time looking past the fact that I don't think I would ever be friends with AP in any other scenario.

I'm confused about what I want from this. I can still have an affair with this AP. We are physically attracted to each other and she finds my personality pleasantly "positive" compared to what she deals with at home. I'm certain I would never date this girl if I was a single guy but this is an affair, right. Right? I'm feeling conflicted about what to do here. I know this sounds like a romantic comedy but I'm not making this stuff up.