I just need to vent in a space where people understand. First, I'm a little new to this group, the AP search, and terms outside of the "common terms" list. So forgive me if I get the acronyms wrong.

I started my search at first for a casual encounter and I did have an amazing experience with a woman redditor. However, I noticed that I crave the after care and other intimacy. The checking in about your day, the did you watch the latest episode, etc. I don't exactly know what to call this but what I'm looking for is a mix of sexual intimacy and intimacy outside of the bedroom.

For background, I'm married to a woman. Shortly after us marrying the Lesbian Deathbed set in. I've tried all the things from lingerie, fireside dates, etc and still no sex. I've begged her to get checked medically and she has no care in the world. So it's basically like we are best friends with no sex. 😑...and I'm not looking to change my situation - that's a story for another day. But ultimately I'm here like some of you just wanting to feel desired and some type of intimacy.

I guess I just wanted to know if anyone else is discouraged with finding reallyyyyy compatible pAPs but them being so far away or far away AND with differing schedules... I feel like it's been hard to find women pAPs close to me. Apologies if this is all over the place...just venting. ☹️

Excuse the typos, etc.