I left my marriage a little over two years ago after 7 years of dead bedroom, 5 years of cheating, many years of pulling 97% of the workload around the house for all the basics while my ex acted butthurt if he salted the frozen stairs or wiped the snow off my car in the morning, and just general malaise. I saved, planned, got legal consultation, and left. I've been single now for 26 months and divorced officially the last 16 months.

For the first year of my separation, I dated only single guys. A lot of them, frankly.

Over 40 men were pretty humorless, their resentment towards their ex-wives would come out pretty bluntly after 2-3 dates, they were out of shape, their apartments and homes were soulless spaces furnished by bad sofas and cheap beds with sheets often not covering the mattress, and no art or plants to be seen. They struggled with ED and intimacy to a great degree.

Under 40 men tended to be never-married, childless, addicted to scrolling on dating apps, very likely to be posted to "are we dating the same guy?" facebook groups, would literally scroll on tinder DURING DATES to see if their next match would be 2% better than me, the person they were currently with. A man who was in my bed got posted to "are we dating the same guy?" while I was scrolling my phone while peeing and I walked into my bedroom and kicked him out so he could get ready for his next date.

I returned to affairlandia and seeing married men about a year ago after a year in strictly Singlelandia. I deleted all dating apps and only date if someone asks me out in real life. It's heavenly.

ANyway, here's an article from NYT opinion about dating as a single woman in 2023!

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/11/11/opinion/marriage-women-men-dating.html

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