Hi, friends!

The sexlessness post from yesterday was super interesting. As a person who was in a sexless marriage for 7 years, made it 2 years into that without cheating, and then cheated for the last 5 of the marriage until I just pursued a divorce, I'm pretty amazed how many convince themselves they have to stay. I stayed for too long, plain and simple. My ex husband would say stuff like "well, maybe I'll just hurt myself" to guilt-trip me into staying, etc. The whole deal. many of you have been there. It's super common.

But in my career, I have many clients who come to me so often to discuss sexless and intimacy-devoid relationships. I came to see how common it is. I think about half of marriages are TOTALLY or MOSTLY sexless (sex one or less times per month).

From what I can tell, sex is a HUGE issue in most relationships. People have many reasons for staying and many never leave.

Anyway, here's an interesting article about it: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-our-unions/202210/the-battle-the-sexes-has-left-more-couples-sexless

If you're a person in a sexless marriage, and you're super unhappy, I think you owe it to yourself to at least get a legal consultation to learn about your rights should you ever hit the wall and want a divorce due to dead intimacy. It's very empowering.

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