Putting aside the devastating consequences of being caught, because we obviously all do that anyway to go into this.

I’ve been doing this for years now and I’m not sure I know the answer.

The first one came at a time when I was very lonely and I felt like it gave me back a sense of self that had been buried for some time and helped me gain back confidence that had been lost.

One affair had the kind of connection I had only ever dreamed of, which was incredible but also hard when it was the hidden part of my life and what I really wished was that it was my real life. It left me worried that lightning doesn’t strike twice.

I have also encountered a whole bunch of liars, weirdos, and mediocre men.

I’ve experienced things I’d have otherwise missed out on, but we know these things always end and it always sucks hard. The highs are so high and the lows are a bottomless pit.

Is it worth it for you?