My wife and I have been together for about 8 years now and have been having problems for at least 6 of them. We have two elementary school aged children together and that is where my conundrum comes into play. I love my kids and I love the good parts of my wife, but I am beginning to shut off from her because her negatives are things I cannot look past much longer, specifically the double standards, hypocrisy, and the lack of intimate connection. We have only been intimate approximately 5 times in the last 1 ½ years or so, and half of those is when she was drunk.

I have been thinking of looking for an AP, but if things ever come out, I don't want my kids to think negatively of either myself or their mother. She is a great mom, but we have our problems and have been growing a part for the better part of a decade now.

How do all of you who are in a similar situation as me convince yourself that the right choice is added happiness rather than just accepting the fact that you'll never be fully happy or satisfied? I need physical touch and want someone to share that with, but im not certain my wife wants that any longer.