So, that happened. I’m 95% sure that my married dad has been posting ads on Reddit seeking casual / long term encounters.

I was casually browsing one of the usual subreddits and I found an ad with an older age and the town where my parents live. It stuck out to me because of the age (over 65 is pretty unusual) and the specific town. I click on the ad and sure enough, the physical description fits perfectly. Now, that’s not enough to arouse much suspicion. There are plenty of older, white males that match. If this were a crime show, I’d be a shit detective. I read on and browse some of his other posts, and more specific details also align. I’m still skeptical but my interest has been piqued.

The final ‘holy shit’ moment came on the last detail I came across. I saw this person posting in another location for a very specific set of dates. It turns out that my father is also visiting that location for those exact dates.

I don’t have the computing power to calculate the exact probability of this being my father, but it’s gotta be pretty good. I guess I can find out for real by catfishing but what good would it do? I’m not sure what the point of this post is. I always had a sneaking suspicion my father wasn’t faithful and we already knew that his father wasn’t.

One positive piece of info that came out of this is that my paternal lineage has a decent libido into their older years. So hopefully I’ll still be enjoying the female form into my golden years (albeit with much saggier testicles).

I feel a mix of inevitability / dread that my desire to stray could have a genetic component to it. On the other hand, should I process this as relief in knowing that ‘it’s not my fault’, similar to how an alcoholic should view their addiction? The science tells us that afflictions such as obesity, addiction, etc. should be approached from a disease / treatment perspective so is that how we should view infidelity as well?

Anyway, I just wanted to vent. I can’t mention this event to anyone else in my life. A strange start to my week; I hope yours is better!