My pAP led me to this sub-reddit and is likely here on occasion, but you all have been so kind to me that it's you I would like advice from.

We connected in another sub Reddit weeks ago. Things seemed too good to be true. We had all the right chemistry, her weird squiggly lines seemed to match up to mine, we chatted throughout the day, called at night, and video chatted on occasion. We made plans...like speculated on long-term possibilities to include getting a dog together.

I let her in, the type of relationship we had (CG/L and DDLG) kinda demanded it. I told her about a previous relationship I had and how hard it was ending it...the pain, the anguish, the self-doubt. My defenses were down. She reassured me that this time would be different and she would not hurt me.

We were on a voice call, laughing together like usual. She got another call she had to take and said she would call me right back. Then everything stopped. Blocked, chats deleted, she deleted her Reddit account (at least the one she was using when she met me), and poof like a ghost she was gone.

I have no idea what went wrong and I am left wondering wth happened? Self-doubt through the roof, anxiety, and pain.

Hit me with your opinions, be harsh if you need to be. I will take it all in and afterwards likely leave this sub Reddit. Thanks for your kindness.