I will "graduate" in May to a new subreddit. At least one subreddit.

Anything with "-Over60" in it's title is open for me to join. And when it comes to adultery, I'm actually happy to be turning 60.

I remember before the last decade happened, a slightly older (male) friend said to me, "You know, when you hit 30, you just keep trucking along." (This is more often true for men, I realize.) "When you hit 40, you stop, pause and reflect. But when you hit 50, you sit down." Not because you're tired, he was saying, but because you have hit a major milestone.

For me, I was stoked to hit 50.

For starters, I decided not to worry so much about what people thought about me. I had obsessed over that for years.

I got a tattoo -- much cheaper yet more physically painful than buying a motorcycle. And, yes, an 80-year-old me might look better on a motorcycle than a tattoo would on an 80-year-old me.

To that end, I actually started taking better care of myself. (On a separate note, go read what Gina Poe has to say about the benefits of going to bed at 10pm and specifically 10pm and the release of growth hormones.)

What's this got to do with adultery? Well, for me, it's adventure in the second half of life.

And when I think of many of the fellow over-50 men I read about here, it's happiness. I hear a lot of women write about meeting their older AP and how he's a "caring man," "surprisingly good in bed; his wife doesn't let him give her oral!!" "He's charming and considerate yet passionate and seriously into me, which I don't get at home."

I'll leave it at this: If you haven't seen "Our Souls At Night," consider doing so. It's a 2017 romantic drama with Jane Fonda and Robert Redford who both, even 6 years ago, were not exactly young. It's a romance. There's sex. I was even a little bit squeamish about it. But it's what many of us are finding later in life.

And I think that's great.