After 15 years in a small city, we moved several states over, about 8 months ago, for my wife’s job. Saying goodbye to colleagues, friends and family was tough enough but having to also leave my AP was a painful loss that I couldn’t let most folks know I was dealing with. After deciding to end it because long distance wasn’t feasible for us, I decided that since I was starting a new job in a new place, I’d make a new go of marriage, the proverbial clean slate. When things reverted to the regular patterns after a few months, I said what the hell and went out to find a new AP. Even though this new city is much larger and far more diverse, I have had little success. I think a big part of it is not being totally comfortable in my new city. Before, I knew the secret places to go to meet and make-out, was more comfortable stealing away from work for quickies and had a higher state of awareness of when and where I was. I know it’s a matter of being patient but in the short term it is crappy.