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Seeking your experience and advice. Iāve been on adderall for over a decade. Itās been largely helpful and Iād prefer to remain on it. Iām wondering if itās killing my sex drive or if my libido is dead for other reasons.
Some info about me: - Iām a mom with two littles (6 and 4 year old boys) - I work full time as a VP at a tech start up (high expectations/stress), going on 4 years. Leaving is not an option at this time for many reasons, financial and other. - I have diagnosed anxiety, ADHD, and PTSD from a complicated pregnancy (26 wk preemie, who is now an amazing and fine 4 year old, thank goodness) - I recently started seeing a therapist and itās OKā¦ after a few months I donāt see/feel any tangible improvements. Maybe not the right fit? - My husband is incredible. Amazing father, doting husband, smart, witty, sexy, and fully supportive of all of my mental health challenges. Heās also in my industry so he āgets it,ā which is very helpful.
The only place we struggle is sex. I have ZERO drive. Itās been YEARS since Iāve had a drive. It feels like an obligation and I get anxiety atop it, knowing Iām not giving him what he wants. Every couple of months it blows up into a fight. He is hurt, feels unwanted; I am frustrated, feel like Iām disappointing him. I want to want it! I justā¦ donāt.
Is it me? My meds? Other? Any advice is appreciated. I donāt know what else to do.
Also feel free to reach out OP. Iām happy to share my experience.
I really hope this podcast helps! And again, feel free to reach out.
So after recognizing myself in much of her description, I started exploring kink. It honestly lights my brain up, and jump started my libido. We were maybe a 1x/month on a good month and now we are 5-10x/week (excepting periods). It takes time to figure out what your kinks may be, but I used literotica.com for that. I wound up trying to write some fantasies too. I also may have discovered Iām an exhibitionist, and getting external validation from not-my-husband (who is a SAHD til kiddo is in school full time) helped immensely. I was 43 and assumed my libido was dead. Now I understand if I fuel the system, I could feel this way til I literally canāt boink anymore!
So after recognizing myself in much of her description, I started exploring kink. It honestly lights my brain up, and jump started my libido. We were maybe a 1x/month on a good month and now we are 5-10x/week (excepting periods). It takes time to figure out what your kinks may be, but I used literotica.com for that. I wound up trying to write some fantasies too. I also may have discovered Iām an exhibitionist, and getting external validation from not-my-husband (who is a SAHD til kiddo is in school full time) helped immensely. I was 43 and assumed my libido was dead. Now I understand if I fuel the system, I could feel this way til I literally canāt boink anymore!
Also feel free to reach out OP. Iām happy to share my experience.
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So after recognizing myself in much of her description, I started exploring kink. It honestly lights my brain up, and jump started my libido. We were maybe a 1x/month on a good month and now we are 5-10x/week (excepting periods). It takes time to figure out what your kinks may be, but I used literotica.com for that. I wound up trying to write some fantasies too. I also may have discovered Iām an exhibitionist, and getting external validation from not-my-husband (who is a SAHD til kiddo is in school full time) helped immensely. I was 43 and assumed my libido was dead. Now I understand if I fuel the system, I could feel this way til I literally canāt boink anymore!