Long story short, been with this girl for 9 months. She's been using the whole time, half of which I didn't know. She's cheated a bunch to get money which really sucked but I stuck through it with her. I've avoided trying to love her out of her addiction and more or less stood by her side as she attempted to cut back and work towards sobriety. All in all its been somewhat successful. She completely cut out the use of meth and signifcantly cut back on her heroin use. I never made it easy for her to use as I would "ruin her highs" by arguing and complaining. Anyways, probation and my support helped her a lot as well. She was finally able to hold a job, started exercising with me, cut a lot of the people she use to hangout with out of her life and began to make some progress in the right direction. She also was attending outpatient, going to all her urines and meetings with her doctors to get on suboxone.

Unfortunately she relapsed and got a PV and has been sent to jail. Mainly due to the fact that she was still visiting her PO even when she had hot urine (which to me is a positive step forward in accountability). It's somewhat comforting knowing she's now being forced to be sober. My question is if jail and potentially rehab will even work on someone who's been using so long. I'm not sure if she's at the point where her addiction is now permanent and there's no hope left. I'm at a point where cutting her off seems like the best option for my own life. I do love her but I constantly feel like I'm being played and none of it is real. It's clear I keep hopping back and fourth on what to do. My brain says leave but my heart says keep fighting and supporting.

This person is someone I'd love to be with. She's intelligent, beautiful, witty just like myself. I'm fortunately from a really good family, have a good job, college degree, never used a single hard drug in my entire life. I consider myself to be a great role model in her life and giving her the support she's never had from her family or friends (all of which have been addicts). Is it a false hope? Do people really ever make it out of this type of addiction they've had for so long?

Lastly, being seperated from her has given me some time to go out and at least talk to new people. I felt really isolated being around her and off balance due to the mind games it seemed she was playing. Just talking to other women makes me feel so relieved knowing they're living normal and in some cases ambitious lifestyles. Hell, even a normal conversation where I don't feel like the wool was being pulled over my eyes was such a relief as well. Final note, addiction sucks, it really sucks. I wish society could come together to get rid of these ailments, at least the worst ones like opium/meth, and rid them of our society. I've still been suporting her in jail, sent her care packages, kept money of the phone but it seems she's still not breaking this cycle of lying.

Last last paragraph, I'm a bit of a talker my bad. Whats the best advice someone could give me for dealing with someone struggling with opiod addiction? Do I stick by her side knowing that she will be out on probation and risks going to jail again if she uses? Or do I cut her off and let her walk this path alone with a small shred of hope she may possibly come back in the future. I think a lot of her problems stem from being abandoned/neglected as a child and having me cut her off will really only fuel her addiction instead of helping ammend these trust/abandoment issues she's been struggling with her whole life. OK, I'm done, sorry for the long read.