I would like to discuss my problematic usage of pornography with someone who I could have a proper discussion with. It doesn't need to be complicated, just sensible.

I will say that I don't subscribe to the addiction model, and I am in control of my usage. I believe in the freedom model (https://www.thefreedommodel.org/) and the positive drive principle, which is that we choose to do whatever we perceive more benefits or happiness in.

However, I can't figure out how much usage would be the right amount for me (whether abstinence or otherwise), and I'm finding it difficult to gauge how much happiness I actually get from using porn, and trying to find things in life that provide me with similar benefits with fewer costs.

I'd like to discuss this and similar things with someone, would appreciate it.

Please comment or message me if interested.