So, the title is essentially what I’m dealing with. Me and my girlfriend are both pretty switchy when it comes to sex, but I as a fat woman have a big (no pun intended lmao) problem with physically getting on top.

I would say that I’m fairly confident in my body and am actively working through the body issues that I do have, this being one of them. They know how I feel and are very supportive, but they also have stated that it wouldn’t be a big deal for me to get on top. I want to switch things up and try other positions and make them feel good, I just get caught up in the confidence part of it.

I guess what I’m asking is for is reassurance from other plus size people or partners of plus size people that get on top. What’s your experience? What’s your best advice?

Thanks for listening - it feels good just to talk about it!