And actually really believe that to be likely? Most of my friends are straight, and they find boyfriends (and husbands) VERY easily. It's a lot harder for women who are into women because of the smaller dating pool. Everyone says "Oh you'll find someone else!" But it's very possible that I won't. There are plenty of people of every orientation who really do end up single for the rest of their lives. It's a sad reality.

I came out of the closet in 2006. I've been at this almost 10 years and have dated a total of three women. They all ended up breaking it off with me within a year for some reason. Outside of them, I've had random dates every year or so but they generally don't pan out. It's extremely difficult and unlikely to find someone you click with. There's really no guarantee I'll meet someone who is right for me. It just gets harder as time goes by because people get into long term relationships and get married.

My life is pretty together. I have a good career and life plan. My emotional issues (we all have them) are more or less in order and I think I make a good girlfriend. It just hasn't happened and it's getting to me. I don't think I'm gross looking but I guess I am not most people's type.

I'm so frustrated! Actualsinglelesbians, please commiserate with me.