... but it is starting to bother me that I'm not. Not really wanting to 'out' myself though. I'm fairly new in the position. This is my first professional job and I'm not trying to mix my personal and professional lives here. To me, it doesn't seem like my orientation should be relevant.

I don't mind being closeted, per se. The thing that is bothering me are the assumptions that my coworkers are making. Since I'm new in town, I have no friend base locally. I've gone out a few times in an effort to meet people. At work they ask me about how I'm doing with meeting folks. Guys are much easier for me to talk to, so any time I do have anything to tell at work I say, "Yeah, I met some guy." Or something of the sort. Without fail, this has led to ooh la la tones and/or romantic assumptions. Why can't women just meet and have male friends?

I've tried to subtlety hint that I'm not interested in men. One woman asked why I blew off one guy's invitation to go out one night (I hadn't even stated to her that it was a date, she just assumed). I said I just didn't feel like it. She asked if I was going to reschedule winky face. I told her that I'm apathetic about dating men... Yet, the assumptions continue.

I'm not even sure why I'm posting about this. Venting, I suppose. I'm sick of the heteronormativity. I also feel a little silly that something so small is upsetting me so much. It feels like I'm living this set of lies that my coworkers have constructed for me. It also feels like it's out of my control because I can't get them to stop without outing myself.

/rant

Side note: If any of you ladies are east coast Floridians, my god could I use some friends, haha!