ive got locs, have short nails and dress like a 12 year old boy. i even prefer wearing binders and going by he/they sometimes. ive been told by a few friends that i look like a short stud, and when i go to bars or gay events i usually end up being flirted with by bottoms...

the problem is, im a pillow princess. the most bottomly bottom to ever bottom. i know how to flag and i keep my carabiner on the right side...but ill be damned if i dont live in bottom city 😭

does this happen to anyone else? i know clothes≠preference in any way...but how do i let people know without disappointing them 😔 ive had to turn down multiple people about this, i feel like im being misleading in a way??