Hi lovelies ☺️

I hope you’re well!

First I just want to say I’ve been a lurker here for a long time and am really grateful for many of the posts from this community supporting trans women or just reveling in our shared love for women. I’ve learned a lot and laughed a lot here 🙌🏼👏🏼🙏

TW: Transphobia

Today though I’m writing to ask other trans people who love women to weigh in on the phenomenon of transphobic rejection. I imagine, in keeping with the stickied post on the sub, we can understand that to be when someone rejects you JUST because they find out you are trans because they (implicitly) think that’s disgusting or upsetting.

Although I am married to my amazing wife, we are poly, and I date from time to time. I’ve tried putting it on my profile, and telling people up front. And nearly every girl I tell immediately reacts in shock that I could be trans and then ghosts me, even if I say I’m postop 😒

I know other transfemme people who love women have experienced this. Not trying to beat a dead horse. But maybe you can share your experiences and advice, so I can learn and heal a bit from your wisdom. It hurts when others invalidate your humanity and womanhood by reacting in disgust or upset to your very existence 🥵

I realize this is a hard topic, and I really appreciate your time and insight, my wonderful wlw community 🙏😩