I'm not sure if I'm Ace or if I'm just so antisocial that I can't have sex with anyone. My wife and I split about a year ago, and the last time we has sex was maybe a year before that. A year before that we had sex and she got pregnant. Before that the other kids (we have 3) were conceived on the rare occasions we banged (I was drunk each time).

Sex is terrifying to me, but so is talking to others. Am I ace or just extremely antisocial? I've had sexual feelings for other women since splitting and even tried having sex with someone (while drunk enough to get into the situation) but nothing happened. We tried but even when sober the next morning it was like I just couldn't feel. Physically or emotionally.

I usually jack off to scratch an itch but now I can't finish on my own either, even while watching porn. It's like an epic sneeze that just won't happen and I don't know what I am or what I want/need anymore. I've posted nudes on reddit and joined groups to see where things go, but nothing does anything for me. I've had people message me interested, but they were all men, and I don't know much about my sexuality, but I know I am not into men.

I feel like I have something to give, but I don't know if I really do, and if I do, I don't know who to give it to.

Life is stupid complicated.