TW: Suicide

Last fall, the abuse to me came to a head when I asked for a divorce. My narc ex was baker acted when he threatened to take his life. I eloped with our children across the country to be with my parents and started divorce and relocation proceedings. He continued to abuse me via email and alienated me to our oldest. He manipulated her to get info on me to use against me and I had to stop many of his phone calls because they were straight up lies to my daughter. He even promised her a big reward if she got us back together.

Fast forward 6 months now, and my soon to be ex and I had mediation at the end of April. It did not go well as he said that he would only accept reconciliation. When I refused, it ended the session. Days later I had the police inform me that he had taken his life. My oldest was devastated initially.

I want to provide my children with some sort of closure, but I don’t want to lie. What are some things I can say about him that doesn’t harm my children farther in this situation? They are 3 and 9.

Any advice would be helpful. Yes, we are all in therapy.