It seems like dating with some boundaries on sex makes people assume you are Christian or a "church girl" . ( While I believe God exists I just don't fully believe the Bible's version about him anymore; I've also become more open minded about other religions. ) Meanwhile on the other hand , if you say you don't go to church , then you must be someone who must be down for anything because she doesn't go to church anyways💀 . I feel like people make too many assumptions , and the only men I meet are either 1. Married and only looking for sugar relationships 2. Used to low input high returns relationships where I as the woman must cook for them , strive to please them in all ways , treat them like my king while at the same time splitting the bill and understand that they are still trying to make it in life so they are not able to provide for me.

Meeting people is also an issue cause I'm not into clubbing or drinking, I'm not on facebook or instagram and I find most men my age ( 21 ) or close to my age highly immature so I can't relate much with my coursemates. I prefer to do things like visit art galleries , plays , cultural events , try out new restaurants, conferences , activist events , niche events and even for those I usually go alone ...I feel like this has become more of a venting post 😂 but any insights on what a young lady in my situation may need to do. I do want to meet my special someone and would love to marry one day but I find hookup culture quite frankly disgusting.