First off, I absolutely consider myself to be genderfluid, transmasc, and asexual at base level. However, that's where my certainty stops, which is a bit of a problem. I'm autistic and find exact labels incredibly comforting when processing myself and the world around me. Currently, I'm looking for advice on how to label my 'gender baseline', if you will (the gender I most commonly experience) and a more in depth way of describing my orientation since most labels depend on a. the attracted person having one solid gender or b. attraction to many genders, neither of which fit me very well.

As I said, I consider myself transmasc, but my gender baseline is most commonly both male and female with a preference towards neopronouns and mixed gendering. I've looked at Bigender, but it doesn't quite feel right--I most frequently describe it as BoyGirl. I'm happy to share my neopronouns and anything more detailed I have to describe my experience with gender if requested!

I'm asexual, but I'm also on the aromantic spectrum, experiencing a very small amount of romantic attraction towards men and masculine-identifying people. However, I'm currently engaged to a woman who I love more than anything despite it being neither romantic or sexual. The best thing I've found so far is Pan-Oriented Aroace-Spec, but I'm open to any advice or questions to help me come to a label with a more exact description.