Hi everyone 😩 I want to ask for your blessings 🙏

Today my wife asked me for a divorce. We have been married almost two years, together for almost four. We’ve lived together for almost that entire time. We have both been poly since before we met, and we have dated people off and on during our relationship.

Our relationship has been strained for a few months because of some apparent incompatibilities. For a few months I have been feeling neglected, like she isn’t giving me enough affection. Today my wife told me she needs her own space to decompress from her life, and that’s why she hasn’t been as affectionate. She just doesn’t want to interact with anyone and absent space to relax she doesn’t feel inclined to be affectionate toward me either. She says - and I believe - she still loves me and feels like she has been distant because she needed to tell me this. She still wants to be my girlfriend after getting a divorce and moving out.

I am about to finish my PhD and go on the job market, so I’m not financially unstable. But I’m so shocked and sad and not sure, at 28, what my romantic life will be like now. I wanted a wife and to be someone else’s wife. I know what I want out of a partner now (tall, dominant, protective, affectionate) but I’m scared of being alone again and opening up again at the same time.