Allow me to vent… yeah.. talking mainly to the GUYs out there…

When a couple or woman in the lifestyle make an opportunity open to you and are being upfront about a fairly intensive vetting process that you willingly then put time and energy to, at least show some courtesy in follow through.

Don’t think you are gonna simply get an invitation to walk into a room and get naked without meeting socially first. Do not carry an expectation that you will get laid, ever.

The vetting process is the key to the get into the mix, to separate yourselves from the obnoxious herd of guys who will do, say, and present as anything they think will sell themselves, no matter how bombastic or insincere.

The vetting process opens the door to face to face contact. And even if you have a great vetting process, the “in person” chemistry is where the deal is finalized, and people decide they want to pull the trigger to playtime.

I just went through this process with 40 of you.. from these subs… of that.. only 4 of you respected our call out and responded respectfully and with merit. Of that.. 2 of you were invited to meet in person… and you both bailed because neither of you wanted to have to meet for a drink and face to face social contact prior to playtime. One of you had the audacity to say you aren’t going to waste your time for just a “chance” in person. Honestly, the disrespect is stifling.Your odds were astoundingly high, and you knew it… but you wanted promises and guarantees.. and that is just not what the lifestyle is about.

You all missed out.

Advice… from a solo guy with many years in the lifestyle and one who enjoys being part of a couple as well…..

Manage your expectations, show patience and maturity, read and respect what is communicated, and never ever think the lifestyle is your easy button to get laid. Handle yourself with grace, and don’t be a d-bag cock pic poster (most aren’t even that impressive) thinking life owes you something.

It isn’t that hard guys. It really isn’t.