TLDR: Former sub turned dominant/switch, iso a man looking to embrace his submissive side and learn together (I will not be the perfect domme right away but I don’t expect you to be perfect either).

If you care about my story:

For years, I was submissive and quiet, spending my life trying to please any man that gave me attention to ensure I wouldn’t end up alone and insecure. They left & hurt me anyway… after giving all of myself, never taking anything… and that bred bitterness. So after the last time, in 2022, I made a change.

I explored myself. I made changes and began exploring what it is that makes me happy, because at the end of the day, I can’t make my life revolve around someone who can leave anytime they want. It had to start with my mind. I built up my self esteem, began wearing more revealing clothes, spending ungodly amounts of money on lingerie, and making myself look in the mirror while I masturbated. What felt awkward and uncomfortable ended up helping me realize… I’m actually really hot.

I want praise. I’m tired of the years I spent getting off on being degraded and having my insecurities validated. I want someone who realizes my beauty and wants to make me realize it, too.

I’ve also have gotten more in touch with my dark feminine energy. I want pleasure, to be appreciated, and considered. I want to be a top priority. I will never again live in a relationship where I feel undervalued.

All of that said, this has been 2-years in the works and it has been an awakening for me. I still very much enjoy the power dynamic-shift where maybe you try to dominate me when you get frustrated. I’m fine with that. While I’m in a much more dominant energy, I think I could still switch with the right person, and I’m looking for that in you, too. Maybe you’re more dominant but you’re looking to explore, maybe you’ve been submissive all your life. I’m open to any kind of scenario.

The only caveat: I want us to take time to know each other, and I want us to be monogamous. I’m also much more interested in local rather than online.

We can discuss looks, preferences, and any kinks/limits in DM to see if we’re a good fit. Do not open with a dick pic. I have no interest in seeing that right now and will block you.