I message thicc bois a lot. Grommr, Feabie and Reddit (as well). Complementing on their guts, gains and creativity.

Example would be like

Me:"You've gotten MASSIVE! congrats dude!"

These guys unprompted would try to goad me into teasing them. (similar but, not quotes BTW)

Them: "I used to be fit. I don't know what happened... I have a disgusting dadbod at (Young Age)."
or
Them:: "I am. Tell me more. I am big aren't I. I am a piggy and a fat fuck"

Honestly don't know what to blame this lack of conversation skills on... This type of gainer I always ghost as I am trying to complement or talk to them and they turn it into me insulting them and getting themselves off.

Even if it is someone who I cannot date or even feed (married, in a LTR, too old for me/ i'm too young for them, too far away etc.) these people still do this which really annoys me. Because I feel like I am getting my genuine feelings and compliments manipulated to sexually satisfy this person that I haven’t met.

It is pretty insulting.

Especially as I am not someone who likes degradation and all that crap. It actually turns me off (like a normal person) and annoys me when gays and thicc peeps do this as people genuinely do this (homophobia and fatphobia still exists).

I have found out and been informed by other gainers that gainers/feedees tend to get degradation messages and comments from random feederism/gainer community members (who find it kinky).

I don't know if it's a lack of etiquette or these people collectively having main-character syndrome. But, I am pretty fucking annoyed at these people. If you want to be called a fat fuck and be degraded etc. etc. Maybe state it so I could stop messaging you before you do mental gymnastics to turn my complements and comments into insults.

I really hate this part of the gay community and feederism/gainer community, I don't know what brain-rot is making you act like this but, have some decency and inform people that you like degrading yourself... (for whatever reason)

Hopefully its just the gay boi brain-rot