Any of you ever meet someone to have intimate encounters around some weight gain fetish and it turns into something else? Something a bit deeper? To the point where you don’t really want them for the fetish part anymore but cherish them as a person and a very close friend?

First, I’m married and poly and bi and mostly ace, which is complicated in itself.

I met this guy on grommr several years back and he is an encourager/admirer who liked my belly and would use it to get off. Over time, we started hanging out and doing things as a couple. First dinner and lunch dates, then all-day outings and events, and now it’s up to whole vacations.

I’ve grown to love him as a person and a friend. To him the sexual/kink aspects are all still very central to our relationship; while to me, it’s like I’ve moved past that and want to be kinky with people I care for less.

Does that make sense? Am I really fucked up?