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Ok, so its done. He's out. Tried calling him, didn't answer the cell so I sent a text telling him he's out and its a band decision and all that yatta yatta yatta, going to grab his stuff and deliver it to him. He calls back, "When can I expect my shit?", I say " within an hour". Went to the practice space, drummer unlocked the gates and helped me load up his stuff. Originally was gonna have to do it by myself, but drummer worked up courage to come with me (Proud of him too). Drank a few beers, headed to his crib. Brought up his stuff to apartment, rang door bell. He comes out and asks "Whats up?" Drummer paraphrased everything in my first post. I say "It is what it is". I told him I loved him and wished to remain friends, held out my hand for a handshake and was denied. He said " I came back with renewed enthusiasm, I was excited to pass out cds.". I didn't say anything. Told him this was really hard for me, and said I ought to go. Left with the words "Take care of yourself". I cried about it, had furious sadness sex with my wife, went to sleep and now at work.

Thank you everyone for your comments on original post, gave me insight and wisdom

TL;DR Band member was fired by band leader and drummer, sadness ensued, dealing now