There is always a lot to say but where to begin?

I have been here for years. I have made many post and gotten some responses. Even met a few people in IRL! Most have been short lived and sexual! But….. I am kind of bored of resetting over and over again. Life is tooo short and busy at home that I don’t have enough mental compacting to speak to multiple people for days and than poof they are gone or there is nothing there!

I have also found out that distance is hard, especially if you both have children, and a job. I have done the online relationship before and don’t get me wrong it’s nice to wake up and have a message from someone but, it fades after months because you need that real touch.

I apologize if it sounds like I’m complaining or being negative. I always feel that if I am genuine when I post it gets a better response and weeds out the bs.

About me: I am 40 yr old but look and feel younger than my age. I am a business professional who works from home often just because it’s summer and I have a pool! But that means in very flexible during the day to meet/chat. I have three kids and a puppy so I am always up early and looking for someone to chat with while sipping coffee. I am 5’8 - not tall but not short. In shape, 167lbs, athletic build no dad bod but not perfect. I love sports, cooking and building house projects.

Why am I here?: I have been married for 14years and let’s just say sex life is stale or vanilla. I also have done this before a few times and it makes my heart pump again. It’s hard to give it up because it feels good doing something naughty. You have to live life and this may sound weird but I feel like I’m a better husband and father by doing this. It relaxes me knowing I’m getting appreciated, good sex etc. not moping around because my wife has t given me a bj in years.. But you also enjoy the other person appreciating you. When shit hits the fan at home you can rely on talking with that person and you both get through it together.

Do I want sex, yes. Do I want the emotional aspect, yes. Do I want someone local vs online, yes. Is it hard to find that, yes? Not sure why but it’s been impossible to find someone in Rochester NY or surrounding area with in 20mins or whatever. Most responses are hour plus away.

So long story short, I hope to find a lady who has done this before. Sick of the ghosting games. Takes care of her self physically and emotionally. Is flexible to meet, not just for pleasure but coffee or lunches!! I hope you have kids so we can relate. I don’t judge about age or style. Just be real, honest and genuine.

I have viewed a lot of other people’s post and try to understand why men don’t get the response but women say two words and they get 500x messages. I guess it’s just the way it goes.

Thanks for taking the time to read my rant!!!

Don’t be scared to come say hi! It’s a plus if you are in suburbs of rochester east side!!

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