I’m a femme lesbian and I have this little problem. I always get mistaken for being straight by men. As in they always seem to think I’m into them. I mean, not always but, it does happen quite often that it has become a problem. I am never flirtatious around men and I actually think that I unconsciously make an effort to stay away from them so this just doesn’t make any sense to me.

It happened a lot in my previous jobs and still happens every now and then. Either guys get extra flirty with me because they like me and they think I like them too or they keep a distance from me because they think I like them but they don’t want to give me the wrong idea that they like me too. Either way, it’s weird. I can always tell when it happens. I’m just good at reading the room. It’s my talent.

Few days ago, I took my dog to a new vet. He was a young vet, probably around my age. I’m 32. He seemed to think I liked him. He kept on waving his left hand to show his ring as if he wanted me to know he was married. It was too funny.

So what I want to know is whether this thing happens often to other femmes too. Maybe it’s the way I dress? I don’t mind showing a little skin. But I still don’t get it.