i [18F] have been talking to a girl [17F] for three weeks now, and we met through a mutual friend. we have pretty different interests, but we get along really well & i definitely already have a soft spot for her.

the issue i’m currently facing is that, anytime someone good comes my way, i sort of sabotage myself? i tell myself that i’m ‘too independent’ for anything romantic, and i get scared at the thought of stuff turning sour. i’ve been doing this for a while; it’s never an issue with the people i talk to, it’s always just a me thing.

i can see stuff going really well w this girl and the thought of that is exciting but absolutely terrifying. my home life is pretty dysfunctional, which i think contributes to how i approach this sort of stuff.

we had met before we started talking, bc our mutual friend saw her as we were sat talking and she joined us; but we’re talking about meeting again in a starbucks during the week. the thought of it terrifies me.

even though we’ve been speaking for a while, i start to worry about conversation not flowing even though she’s really easy to talk to. i keep overthinking it and i don’t want to self sabotage myself.

how can i learn to just trust what happens, instead of convincing myself it’ll go wrong?